What to Avoid During Pregnancy?
I’m Angelica founder of Welcome Parenthood and a mother of two lovely kids. I created this blog to make parenting easier! Till date, I have been publishing pregnancy & parenting tips, tricks, and guidelines whenever I can manage.
In the past few months, I talked to around 1,000 to 1,200 parents and asked them to share a single advice What to Avoid During Pregnancy for first-time moms.
To my utter surprise, honestly, my mailbox was over-flooded with the number of responses I got from the moms and dads I contacted.
Today, in this particular post, I’m going to present you the top 50 pregnancy tips that I received from the parents I talked to. So, without further ado, let’s get straight to tips!
01. “Avoid buying anything but the essentials for baby gear. I learned this the hard way! We bought all of the latest gadgets and gizmos and then we quickly realized our son wasn’t a fan of most of them.
There’s always a Target nearby or Amazon Prime if you decide you really need something after baby arrives” — Mandy Roberson, Founder of mommasociety.com
02. “Don’t compare your bump and/or body to other pregnant women. Everyone starts from different places and everyone’s body changes differently during pregnancy.
Someone who is 5’11 like me, with a long torso, is going to have a baby bump that looks much different than someone who is 5’2, even if they’re the same number of weeks along.
Yes, your body with change and no you don’t have to love every second of it, but try not to compare yourself to others and instead focus on what you’re doing – growing a human- because that’s amazing!” — Lindsay, Founder of theleangreenbean.com
03. “Pregnancy is such a special and personal time. It can also be a time when others feel the need to tell you what they think is best for you, your body and your baby.
Try to avoid letting other’s beliefs and experiences influence how you think about yourself and your choices. You are the expert in you and your child.
Listen to your instincts and trust yourself. This will serve you well all throughout your journey through parenthood” — Melissa Benaroya, childproofparenting.com
04. “As you start your journey into parenthood, you will be tempted to read and research and make yourself crazy with all of the things they “experts” say—many of which are contradictory.
Read the books and blogs—yes—but at the end of the day, you need to settle into the fact that you will become the expert for your child. You will become his or her student, and as you observe and learn your child’s ways, you will also learn how to best meet his/her needs.
Assimilate what your doctor and other experts say—of course—but ultimately trust your heart and your instinct. You are the mom for a reason and no-one will be able to parent your baby the way you can. You will never be a perfect mom, but you are the perfect mom for your baby.” — Adriel Booker, Author of adrielbooker.com
05. “Avoid getting overtired particularly in the last trimester. Research has shown when mums have an afternoon nap their babies are born at a healthier birth weight. The best sleep position during pregnancy is “SOS” (sleep on side).
Even better is to sleep on your left side. Sleeping on your left side will increase the amount of blood and nutrients that reach the placenta and your baby. Keep your legs and knees bent, and put a pillow between your legs.” — Karen, Founder of Nurture Parenting
06. “I’d say during pregnancy you should avoid searching the internet for every little symptom you experience. It’ll freak you out. Check in with your nurse or doctor for serious questions and let them help you put your mind at ease.
Also, take advice with a grain of salt. Everyone parents differently so don’t let how others do things make you feel bad about your way. Follow your gut. You’ve got this mama.” — Jennifer Borget, Founder of Cherish365.com
07. “I think my best advice is to be mindful of what you’re eating and drinking. So often we have moms who haven’t eat or drank all day come into the hospital because they feel like “something is wrong” — when in reality it’s THEM that’s wrong. Your baby needs a LOT of water and regular meals.” — Hilary Erickson, Founder of Pullingcurls.com
08. “Avoid the self-talk that you are not good enough to mother this baby. This baby is coming to you because you are the perfect mother for her/him.
Your baby is an extremely aware little child who is dwelling in your womb. Talk with her, love her, play her your favorite music.
Most important, seek out the best birth possible for her. What happens in her birth will affect her for her whole lifetime. Midwives usually help you facilitate the best birth possible.” — Jan Tritten, Author of midwiferytoday.com
09. “You should avoid complaining too much while pregnant. I know it’s uncomfortable and annoying often and limits what you can do, but trust me, it will all be worth it in the end when you have that beautiful child in your arms.” — Katelyn Fagan, Author of whatsupfagans.com
10. “Avoid leaving the hospital without a long-term parenting strategy. Given that children don’t come with an instructional manual, parents often think that trial and error is their only option.
But the truth is that you and your spouse can start to develop your parenting approach now. After asking thousands of parents why they want to get this parenting thing right, I learned that deep inside most parents wish two things.
One, to raise good human beings who are kind, resilient, emotionally stable, and more. The other, to foster a positive relationship with their children for life- through the toddler years, teenage years, and as adult friends.
Go ahead and use these two parenting goals as your guiding star. You see, when parents are planning for a baby’s arrival, they treat that new life with the utmost reverence and love. But fast-forward two years, most parents are yelling, threatening, bribing, or even punishing that little one.
What happened? This happens because we have inherited parenting fears, bad habits, negative beliefs, and emotional baggage that can impact the way we will interact with our children. You might need to develop more emotional intelligence or overcome decades and even generations of conditioning.
So invest just as much time learning how to create a positive relationship with your child as you would do researching baby gear, creating your birthing plan, and setting up the nursery.
Pregnancy is the best time to prepare yourself for the eighteen years of everyday parenting challenges you have ahead. Essentially, avoid coming home from the hospital without a parenting plan that focuses on creating parent-child connection and harmony for life.” — Lorena Seidel, Founder of lorenaseidel.com
11. “We should avoid doing hot arguments with our partner and other family members. Instead, we should try to do meditation every day to increase our patience level and inner happiness.” — Payel Ghosh, Parenting Consultant
12. “You should avoid eating raw or uncooked food. Avoid alcoholic drinks and most importantly avoid negative people!” — Jenny Hills, Author of Healthy and Natural World
13. “I think the most overlooked aspect of fertility and optimal health during pregnancy is digestive health. Our children inherit our microbiome, and as we’ve seen in the medical literature, our microbiome influences health in so many important ways.
A healthy microbiome helps us to stay well by improving our digestion, gut permeability, hormone balance and immunity to name a few.
An imbalanced microbiome, on the other hand, is linked to inflammation and chronic diseases including allergies, asthma, autism, autoimmunity, diabetes, eczema, Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD), Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) and obesity.
The balance of intestinal microflora is impacted by a multitude of things, so it’s hard to pinpoint just one thing to avoid. Frequent antibiotic use, acid-blocking medications like Proton pump inhibitors (ie Nexium), household chemicals, pesticides in foods and heavily processed foods are probably the biggest culprits.” — Christine Maren, Functional Medicine Physician
14. “Avoid taking in too much advice without sifting through your own spirit and mind. There’s so much noise about pregnancy out there, and a lot of conflicting advice about what you should do, and how you should do it.
To me, the most important thing was finding and accessing my own deeper wisdom, and listening in to my body. Sometimes that meant reading tons of books and learning about this wild and complicated thing that was happening, and other times I had to set all the books, podcasts, and notes aside and walk through the forest holding my belly, and talking to my future kid.” — Sarah Peck, Founder of startuppregnant.com
15. “This may not be the amusing or funny thing you might have wanted, but I feel so strongly that it is one of the most important things moms need to know: Avoid waiting until your last trimester of pregnancy to take your childbirth classes.
Start them in your 5th or 6th month and take classes that have no fewer than 5 classes or 10 hours minimum. I have been teaching childbirth classes for 23 years and prenatal yoga for 16 years. I have a passion for helping moms have healthier, safer pregnancies, labors, and births.
Positive birth experiences are the main goal. I recently began to teach childbirth classes in a hospital. I’ve been an independent instructor up to now and continue to teach independent classes (24 hours of instruction) in addition to hospital classes.
The one thing that shocks me the most is how women start their childbirth classes so late. Many of my students are already 36 weeks pregnant! The one thing to avoid during pregnancy is to wait until the last trimester to take your childbirth classes.
Birth can be a sacred and spiritual experience. It can also be a traumatic experience. Birth can transform new mothers into extraordinarily marvelous, powerful, and confident mothers or leave them broken, depressed, and in physical and emotional pain.
It takes time to prepare your body and your mind and your spirit for the emotional and physiological experience of labor and birth. You CAN NOT prepare in 3 or 4 weeks. There is so much to know and to do if you want a positive and safe and healthy birth experience.” — Liza Janda, Founder of yogajanda.com
16. “Don’t become TO obsessed with the “no’s” of pregnancy. Sure, it’s advised not to eat raw fish, avoid alcoholic beverages and steer clear of lunchmeat, but there are so many other things to focus on other than those. For instance, the amazing fact you’re creating a living, breathing human!
The fact that your body has allowed this miracle to transpire within you! If you change the frame of mind to embracing the things this stage of life allows, it most certainly will help make those little no’s seem much more minute!” — Elizabeth Ann Shaw, Owner Of shawsimpleswaps.com
17. “The moment I saw that positive test, everything changed. I was a mom now, and for the next 9 months, I knew that I would have to make adjustments to my diet, exercise, and lifestyle to ensure the health and wellness of my baby.
For the most part, the transition was easy, but giving up coffee was tougher than I had first thought! I wouldn’t consider myself a coffee junkie, but I do enjoy a cup or so every day to start my morning off.
Learning that during pregnancy, use of caffeine is believed to pose some risk to fetal health – and caffeine will pass from the mother’s system through the placental barrier to your developing baby definitely made me re-evaluate my habit.
As most of us know from experience, caffeine causes an increase in heart rate, and when pregnant, this results in increasing your baby’s heart rate as well (not a good thing).
While the verdict is still out on how much caffeine is too much when pregnant, for peace of mind I opted to transition my one cup a day to decaf. The first few weeks were rough, but knowing that I was doing it for baby made all the difference and got me through” — Sarah Cocke, fairhavenhealth.com
18. “Pregnant mothers should avoid taking the synthetic form of folic acid, particularly if they have or are unsure whether they have any MTHFR gene mutations. Switch to a form of bioavailable folate instead, like methylfolate.
Ensure you are taking this four months prior to becoming pregnant if possible. Folate is very important, and the advice to take folate should not be ignored. But taking ordinary “folic acid” when your body is deficient in the enzyme that can convert that form to one that your body can use will not give your body enough active folate to ensure the protective benefits.
Many of our readers can attest to this from their own experiences and it was an important factor in maintaining my own healthy pregnancy.” — Andrea, Founder Of mthfrliving.com
19. “Avoid comparing your pregnancy to anyone else’s! Your unique body and your unique baby are going to make a unique pregnancy!
The best judge on the health of your pregnancy is going to be your doctor, so resist the temptation to compare your pregnancy to those around you. Instead, focus on the amazing things that are happening and getting yourself ready for motherhood!” — Heather Taylor, Gentle Sleep Coach at mightymoms.club
20. “While there are herbs that are safe for pregnant women to use, it is always important to err on the side of caution. Some classes of herbs should be avoided during pregnancy, including bitters, alkaloids, emmenagogues, abortifacients, herbs high in volatile oils, and laxatives.
These types of herbs can stimulate uterine or digestive contractions and bring on premature labor. Instead, focus on nutritive herbs that can support your body through the changes of pregnancy. Common herbs that are safe in pregnancy based on scientific research and clinical trials include raspberry (Rubus idaeus), echinacea (Echinacea spp.), and ginger (Zingiber officinalis).
Common herbs that are thought to be safe during pregnancy based on traditional and historical safe use include chamomile (Matricaria chamomilla), oat straw (Avena sativa), nettle (Urtica dioica), and cranberry (Vaccinium macrocarpon)” — Marlene Adelmann, Founder of theherbalacademy.com
21. “Pregnancy is a special state of health in which the wisdom of the body is really tangible. Our culture has created a list of shoulds and shouldn’t be intended to give guidance but beware: anybody who tells you what you should or shouldn’t do when you are pregnant is basically trying to distract you from the really deep wisdom of your own body’s soul and heart!
The most powerful wisdom to be guided by is your connection with your body and your baby. Don’t believe anybody who tells you what you should or shouldn’t do – only trust the wisdom of your own connection with your body and your baby. A mother’s intuitive wisdom is better guidance than any ‘expert’” — Uma Dinsmore-Tuli, Founder of wombyoga.org
22. “Don’t freak out about traveling pregnant. I stopped adding to the 54 countries I’d been too out of an unknown fear. Little did I realize how much more my life would be restricted after the baby! Just grab some compression socks, drink plenty of water, and you’re good to go” — Li Tian, Writes of Fulltimebaby.com
23. “All mothers to be should avoid worrying that they know enough about taking care of a baby. I’m sure no one ever really feels truly ready but you figure it out along the way. No matter how much you read about babies before having one, we’re all just learning as we go” — Carley Mendes, Founder of ohbabynutrition.com
24. “During Pregnancy, don’t sit or stand for long duration’s. If you are in the office, don’t continue to be seated for long duration’s (30 minutes). Also, don’t keep on standing for long duration’s.
Since the body weight increases in pregnancy, you could face problems like swollen ankles if you continue to sit or stand for the long duration.
When you are standing, you can do some pregnancy safe stretches (after consulting your gynecologist). The best way is to keep moving in short durations. You can use footrest or stool to get some comfort and stretch your legs” — Jhilmil, Founder of mommyinme.com
25. “You should avoid sitting and doing absolutely nothing! When I was pregnant with my first born, a lot of people told me to relax and not work too much which I agree with but then I realized how unfit I was!
Exercising and keeping fit is important, it even helps with your recovery. With my middle child and my last born, I was out and about until the very last hour. I could see the difference with my delivery and recovery. Don’t overwork yourself but also don’t do nothing” — Shanèy Vijendranath, Co-founder and CEO at youbabyandi.com
26. “Besides the obvious—drugs and drinking: number one, in my opinion, is stress. Decisions now need to be made for two. All decisions going forward will reflect onto your child. You are no longer #1. This is not to say that you lose your identity. It just changes. No greater feeling than looking at your grown child and saying (with puffed up chest), “I made that.” ” — Janet Gallinati, President of parentswithoutpartners.org
27. “I guess I’d put a humorous take on it from personal experience. I’d say don’t forget how big you are when you are pregnant. I had an uncomfortable experience trying to exit a car park where there were large pillars and tight spaces making it difficult to get out of the car.
Choose a car park with generous spaces or better still get someone else to drive so you can get out before they manoeuvre into space. I can also remember encountering some tight spaces and narrow gaps when walking round historic buildings, so if in doubt check ahead” — Erica Hughes, Founder of Nine to Three Thirty
28. “During pregnancy, you should avoid self loathing. It can be challenging watching your body change, but this the time to love your growing belly and what you’re creating inside. Instead of gorging on sugar laden snacks, try nutrient dense foods like fruits, vegetable, smoothies, whole grains and lean proteins with a little something special in between so your pregnancy and after birth make you feel good in and outside.” — Catherine McCord, weelicious.com
29. “I would say from my experience you should avoid stress and anxiety triggers more than anything during pregnancy. I believe if women can realize the importance of self love, self care and slowing down their minds during this precious time with a baby growing in her – then in turn her beautiful baby will reap those benefits.
We know often women can’t fall pregnant from stress alone so what is that telling us? I spent lots of time with my second pregnancy trying to slow life down and spend time with my baby and me in preparation for his entrance” — Sara Stace
30. “Sea food, alcohol, lunch meat….those are all things they tell you to avoid while pregnant, right? But they don’t often talk about avoiding things that can affect your mental health. Avoid anything that makes you feel discouraged or sad or fearful about pregnancy.
When I was pregnant with my first, I suffered from prenatal depression, and so much of that was fueled by the negativity that I found on the Internet about motherhood (especially in message boards!). Seek out the things that make you happy!” — Katie Clark, Founder of clarkscondensed.com
31. “Don’t listen to everybody. When pregnant every one will give you unsolicited advice: strangers on the street, your colleagues and friends. Family and in-laws. And somehow everybody wants to share the most horrid birth stories ever.
Instead, seek out positive birth stories. And do practises that support you. One of the reasons I am so passionate about teaching prenatal yoga is because it is such a empowering way to get to know yourself.
Re-connecting to your body and how it is changing at this very special time. You explore how you respond to discomfort, to change and to pleasure. Both physically, emotionally and mentally. You can use this off the mat too. In your daily life and specifically during labour, birth and postpartum. Instead of listening to everybody – listen to your body” — Anja Brierley Lange, Founder of yogaembodied.com
32. “In terms of what you should avoid during pregnancy, I would say that it’s important when exercising to avoid anything where you stretch the legs too wide apart or where you stretch the legs wide for too long.
This is something I have seen a lot in my pregnancy yoga classes and I have learnt this from personal experience after swimming a lot during my first pregnancy.
After doing breaststroke frequently and repetitively for 20 mins or more a few times a week, I realised one day when I got out of the pool that I was walking a bit like John Wayne! I had an ache between my inner thighs and groin and realised I had developed pelvic girdle pain (formerly known as SPD).
Luckily I recognised the symptoms and knew that the best cure was to avoid any wide legged stretches (particularly breast stroke) and that after a week or so it would subside if I was careful. Getting in and out of bed, the bath or a car had to be done carefully!
The hormone relaxin peaks around 14 weeks so even before the bump is properly showing women are very vulnerable! As a pregnancy yoga teacher, I see many women with PGP in my classes (about one in five women are affected by it at some point).
PGP is also affected by the ligaments softening to prepare the pelvis for birth. Therefore whether doing yoga, swimming, pilates or gym training it is really important not to overstretch! If I was allowed another what to avoid (and equally important) point, I would say practicing anything that strains the abdominal muscles during pregnancy, such as crunches, planks, or any abdominal exercises must be avoided!” — Tara Lee, Founder of taraleeyoga.com
33. “Avoid unnecessary stress: trust your body, sing to your baby, feel powerful” — Wendy, Author of stavangerbirthandbaby.com
34. “Don’t listen to people who tell you to avoid exercise! Staying active during pregnancy will benefit you AND your baby: medical experts agree that all healthy pregnant women should aim for around 30 minutes of exercise every day.
Women who stay active are less likely to suffer from pregnancy niggles and discomforts such a backache or varicose veins and are less likely to suffer from gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia. Exercise alleviates stress and anxiety, helps you sleep better at night and will help you to maintain a healthy weight gain.
Giving birth is a physical challenge and exercise will help you to prepare for the big day….and ease your recovery period afterward. What’s more, your baby will benefit too! Babies born to women who exercise are less chubby at birth, develop faster and have improved vascular health …..active moms are more likely to raise active families and who doesn’t want to be a positive role model for their children?” — Deborah Hazeldean, Founder of FittaMamma.com
35. “As a mom of seven, I’ve learned to avoid thinking I’ll ever get everything ready or finish the to-do list. Especially during pregnancy. It’s so easy to push yourself to get everything perfect, but perfection never comes, and being a good mom isn’t based on perfection, rather showing up and loving.
Our children need us to take care of ourselves. And that means sometimes you are okay with not getting everything finished because you are caring for your heart, your body and your baby now.” — Rachel, Founder of findingjoy.net
36. “A pregnant mother should avoid eating any kind of raw meat or poultry product as it might contain salmonella virus and can harm the baby. Liver should be avoided completely. Avoid hot dogs or other luncheon meals as they might not be cooked properly.
Eggs, if taken, must be cooked properly till the yolk and egg white is firm. Avoid refrigerated and sliced meats or cook them properly before consuming” — Bruna, Author of babydoppler.com
37. “During pregnancy, you should avoid being pushed into any decision that does not feel right for you. There is no one-size-fits-all approach for pregnant moms, and you should be confident in the choices you make because they resonate with you and fit your family and lifestyle.
It is more than okay to make choices that your friends and family don’t agree with or do not understand. Your job as a mother is to make the best decisions for you and your baby, and only you can decide what those decisions are.
I welcomed my baby girl on New Year’s Eve and have had many uncomfortable conversations with well-meaning friends and family justifying my decision to have a home birth. Home births are not the right fit for everyone – my son was not born at home – but it was the right fit for my daughter and me.
Thankfully, I have taken the steps to educate myself about the risks, benefits, and evidence supporting my birth choices. This made all the difference and made me feel confident that my choice to have a home birth was the right fit for my family” — Vanessa Merten, Creator & Host of Pregnancy Podcast
38. “Think carefully as you use products in your home and on your body. There are so many potential chemical exposures from personal care products and cleaners – and we simply don’t fully understand how they might affect pregnant women.
So reducing your exposure where you can is a good bet. So remember, while you are pregnant, less is more. Use less product each time, and use products less frequently than you normally do and this will reduce your exposures across the board.
And for a list of more tips to avoid toxic chemicals during pregnancy – see our fact sheet available here!” — Alexandra Scranton, Director of Science and Research, Women’s Voices for the Earth
40. “The first pregnancy is very exciting in the life of every woman. The attitude to it will have a huge impact on your parenting journey. Uptight, anxious mother will raise uptight anxious babies. Relaxed, happy mother, will raise relaxed happy babies.
Keep yourself busy and keep your regular routine as much as possible. Don’t treat the pregnancy as a disease. You don’t need discounts, no special food, no special treatment, you just need to surround yourself with happy, positive, supporting people.
Stay away from people who are grumpy, negative and critical. Make the pregnancy a natural part of life.
If you manage to do it while pregnant, it’ll be easier to do it when the baby comes. Meditation is the best tool to make the pregnancy happy and healthy. Learn to meditate and any mediation will do the trick.” — Ronit Baras, Founder of ronitbaras.com
41. “My advice is to avoid worrying too much! I know it’s easier said than done, but pregnancy is such a special time, so try to sit back and enjoy it when you can. I also really recommend taking a babymoon and spending some time with your partner while it’s just the two of you. It’s one of the best things we did” — Victoria, Founder of bridgesandballoons.com
42. “I generally don’t feel there is a lot that you have to worry about while pregnant. Try to enjoy growing that new life in your belly. Your body knows what to do. One thing I can say to absolutely avoid is doing anything to your body to prepare for breastfeeding.
Sometimes you hear people suggest rubbing or scrubbing your nipples and breasts. Just leave the ladies alone. Your body knows how to prepare for breastfeeding just as well as it knows how to grow that baby!” — Abby, Author of thebadassbreastfeeder.com
44. “Pregnancy opens a whole new world of hope, love, fear and self-doubt. You will question yourself, your body, your food cravings, and your future as a mom. It’s part of the process! Through it all, choose to focus on hope and love” — Jen Hansard, Rawkstar-in-Chief of simplegreensmoothies.com
45. “Probably one of the best advice I can give women during pregnancy is to get enough rest both physically and mentally. Many women continue with their household chores and subject their body to physical stress by lifting or carrying a heavy load, climbing stairs, moving furniture and so forth.
This can not only strain your back but may also trigger premature labor and bleeding in many cases. The same applies to mental and emotional stress.
If the environment at work or at home is negative, full of shouting, anger and resentment to the point where you constantly shout, get upset or simply have negative thinking then this can directly affect how your body handles your pregnancy.
I remember at one point during week 21 of my first pregnancy, I had an on-going argument with my husband about our future, the business and what not, and I clearly remember that I was so distraught that I felt actual pain in my stomach.
That same night I suddenly noticed bleeding when I went to the bathroom. I got so scared. I thought that was the end of my pregnancy. We rushed to the hospital and fortunately this was just light bleeding and there was no risk to the baby.
I vividly remember my doctor asking me 2 questions: “Have you been doing anything you shouldn’t?” Have you been under any type of stress lately?
I replied “not that I can recall…” but deep down I knew what caused the bleeding in my case and my husband just nodded to me as if to say “We can’t let this happen again”. We agreed to make the necessary changes in how we address each other.
We both knew what we needed to be careful about. This was our wake up call and there was never any bleeding except for that single time. Also it is important to note that caffeine is a stimulant and a diuretic, which means drinking your usual few cups of coffee every day will increase your blood pressure, heart rate, and the number of trips you make to the restroom.
Plus, caffeine crosses the placenta. While you may function just fine caffeinated, your growing baby doesn’t. That’s because your baby’s metabolism is still developing.
Moderate levels of caffeine, defined as 150 to 300 milligrams (mg) a day, should be fine. Just remember that caffeine isn’t just in tea and coffee. You’ll find it in chocolate, sodas, and even certain over-the-counter medicines.” — Lisa Olson, Nutritionist, Chinese Medicine Researcher, Consultant and Creator of Pregnancy Miracle System
46. “It’s been 12 years since I was pregnant but considering I teach pregnancy yoga this is my advice:
(1) Breath for 2. Fill your body, lungs and baby with nourishing breaths whenever and wherever you can.
(2) Don’t listen to other birth stories unless they have a relevance to you. Everyone loves to share the drama of their baby’s birth but this highlights the need for a postnatal ’emotional unpacking’ and you are not the one to be the recipient!” — Julie Bickerton, Founder of Babynomad.net
47. “Avoid road tripping unless you wear compression socks! TravelingMom Hannah Rinaldi, who has a 1-year-old, decided to leave hers at home because it was too hot to wear compression socks. “My feet were swollen for days.
I was miserable the entire trip because of it,” she says. Avoid hopper flights, those small planes with 7-9 seats that fly really short routes.
The planes aren’t pressurized. TravelingMom Nasreen Stump was pregnant with twins and had to turn around on the tarmac as she was about to board when she realized the plane wasn’t pressurized” — Cindy Richards, TravelingMom.com
48. “Although I’m a guy and have never been pregnant before, I’m a full-time daddy to my 2-year-old daughter and have been so ever since my wife was pregnant until now. I am the main caretaker of my daughter – I feed her, bathe her, play with her, educate her and put her to bed.
I can share from a dad’s perspective what is important to note during pregnancy. If you’re an expectant mother, you should avoid situations that can potentially cause you lots of emotional distress.
If you know you’re more likely to be triggered when discussing certain topics with your husband, don’t talk about them now and leave that for the future (if it’s important). If the smell of milk makes you nauseous and irritated, don’t go to a cow farm.
It’s already difficult enough with all the hormonal changes in the body, so don’t make life harder than it has to be. Pregnancy should be a time where you relax and adopt a “let go and let God deal with it” attitude.
Let your spouse and family members that you’re living with know what sets you off during this time of pregnancy. Get their understanding and support as best as possible through good communication.
Encourage your hubby to read up about pregnancy and what happens during this season of your life. Guys don’t have the inbuilt maternal instinct as you do, so the learning curve will be extra steep for them.
Be patient with them – they will appreciate it. Send him articles that you’re reading, or even read them together and discuss them. That’s a good way to bond and have a mutual understanding.
If you’re going to be first-time parents, also read up about how to take care of a newborn and learn together. Parenting has to be a partnership between husband and wife. No one should have to do it alone.” — Milton Goh, Founder of Milton Goh
49. “During your pregnancy, you should avoid too much advice. Everyone is going to have an opinion – from how you should birth to what your body should be doing to how you should raise your child.
In the end, it’s really important to follow your beliefs, your heart, and most importantly, your mama’s gut and to do what is right for you.
It’s ok to say you aren’t interested in hearing someone’s opinion. Remembering that you ultimately know what is best for you is going to help clear your mind and get it ready to bring Baby Earthside.” — Lauren, Author of loveofalittleone.com
50. “Quite honestly, and Ironically, I feel the best thing an expecting mother should avoid during pregnancy is the internet and social media. I wish all pregnant women could literally just unplug.
Too much external information interferes with the development of their vital mothering intuition. In order to give birth and parent from a place of deep connection to her body and baby, she needs to spend time cultivating the wild feminine within.
This is best done by avoiding screens and doing things that she loves. Engaging in creativity, embodied activities (dance, yoga, walking, etc), being in nature and spending time with like-minded women will support the development of her intuition and cultivate trust in her body.
My blessings for a new mother is that she spends time reconnecting to the wisdom of her body and the innocence of her baby growing within.
It is from this place of deep connection and trust that she will learn to listen to and trust her instincts, allowing her to give birth and parent with great love and inner-power. If all mothers access this power within them, together we can heal the world.” — Shelley Rahim, Author of sacredbirthjourney.com
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