A new study from the University of Michigan reveals that children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) may face unique challenges in forming and maintaining friendships. The study, published in the journal “Autism Research,” found that children with ASD often struggle with social communication and interaction, which are key components of friendship. These challenges can manifest in various ways, including difficulty understanding social cues, engaging in reciprocal conversations, and navigating social situations.
“But some parents say their children face barriers in making friends, such as personality, social anxiety, medical conditions or just not having as many opportunities.” Over half of parents report at least one factor that makes it difficult for their child to make new friends, with about one in five saying that shyness or being socially awkward got in the way of their child’s efforts to make new friends. Another 15% of parents say friendship challenges stemmed from kids being mean while less than 10% said a child’s disability or medical condition made friendships more challenging. Parents of older children were more likely than parents of younger children to say that difficulties making new friends are related to other kids already having friend groups or having too few places to get together.
The nationally representative report is based on responses from 1,031 parents of children 6-12 years old surveyed in August 2024. Helping children navigate friendships Three in four parents have taken steps to help their child make new friends. The most common strategies include arranging play dates or outings, enrolling their child in activities to meet kids with similar interests or giving their child advice on how to make friends. About a fourth of parents try to befriend other parents who have kids the same age. “Supporting children in making friends is a balance of guidance, encouragement, and giving them space to navigate social situations independently,” Clark said.
“Parents’ involvement may vary based on a child’s age, personality, and social needs.” Children who struggle making new friends because of shyness, medical conditions or social anxiety, for example, may need to be gently eased into friend-making. Parents can help by choosing a small-group activity the child enjoys, Clark suggests, and allow space for the child to become comfortable interacting with peers. “For some children, making new friends can be stressful,” Clark said. “Remember that children are still developing and practicing their social skills while making and maintaining friendships. “Parents should expect and allow children to make mistakes, intervening only in matters of safety. Later, in a private moment with the child, parents should be ready to listen and offer advice.”
Parents of older children are also more likely to allow children to use social media connect with friends – including one in four parents of middle school-aged children – and buy items to help them “fit in.” Clark cautions parents to be mindful of how their kids are using social media, which has been shown to increase the risk of developing mental health concerns such as anxiety and depression because of opportunities for negative peer influences. “Parents who choose to allow social media should help their child learn to use it responsibly,” she said. Parents want friends’ families to be like them
This suggests a level of parental anxiety about their children’s social lives, and the potential for negative influence from peers. Let’s dive deeper into the reasons behind this parental anxiety. One of the most significant factors contributing to this anxiety is the rise of social media.
He argues that children should be encouraged to engage with diverse groups of children, fostering a sense of inclusivity and understanding. This statement is supported by research that shows children who interact with a wider range of peers from different backgrounds have better social skills, empathy, and understanding of others. This research highlights the importance of social diversity in fostering positive social development. Furthermore, exclusive friendships can lead to social isolation and a lack of understanding of different perspectives.
